It’s been a while since my last blog post, and I thought it was about time to share what’s going on, things I have learned and things I have been working on.
I want to start by saying Superman flew away, and I am 100% okay with that because as it turns out, I’m more of a Batman kind of girl. I just didn’t know it.
When I was in High School, I never understood the concept of dating. I didn’t realize that someone could go on multiple dates, see numerous people and not have a boyfriend. To me, dating was with one person you thought you loved, and as it turns out, it’s nothing like that.
My expectations are high, my standards won’t be lowered for anyone. This is a beautiful thing, I don’t ever want to feel like I need to settle in my life. Unfortunately, this makes dating hard. I have been on many dates with many excellent men, but they aren’t for me. They may be good people, but I never see our paths going further than a few months, and that’s not what I’m looking for. I’m not ready for marriage, kids or anything substantial, but I am looking to grow with someone and build a bright future.
There are nights when I feel empty like I should settle just to hold someone again, but then I remember everything that I have accomplished alone, and how I have improved myself with the help of my family. There are a few things I have learned from dating people.
1. I am allowed to have high standards.
2. I am allowed to make my expectations clear from the very beginning.
3. I am never allowed to settle for a fake relationship.
4. I am allowed to feel strongly and passionately because whoever I end up with will accept this.
5. I am strong on my own.
6. I can love on my own.
7. Finding a life partner takes time and patience, and it may not happen for several years, and I am okay dating and waiting for the right person. Even if I end up being 45.
8. I am happy where I am in life, and I am proud of myself.
9. I actively choose who goes in and out of my life.
My past relationships failed because I was with people who didn’t understand me, and that was partly because I didn’t recognize myself, or I wanted them to view me in a certain way. That’s all gone now, I’ve worked on myself, I know myself better than I have before and it’s because I have sat alone, talking to myself getting to know what’s beneath my blue eyes and gold hair. When was the last time you truly reflected on yourself? Circumstances change, we grow and mature.